January 22nd, 2014
You’ve Got a Superpower, You Just Have To Use It
When I was little, I remember looking around at grown ups and thinking that they seemed like superheroes who had forgotten they had powers.
Adults had everything at their fingertips! They could drive cars and travel to anywhere in the world! They could eat whatever they wanted! They didn’t have to spend all day in school! They could dye their hair crazy colours, or go become professional trampoline testers! No one could tell them what to do.
(Can you tell I’m a delightfully bossy, first-born kid?)
While it sounds precious, on a basic level the sheer scale of choice that we have is absolutely mind-blowing when you think about it.
But now that I’m an adult, sometimes I forget my superpowers – and I bet you do too.
And we all know why we’re forgetful. That much responsibility is too big, so we tackle it in bite sized bursts. We create habits and routines so we can free up our brains for bigger and better things.
And yet, nearly everything that you’re doing today is your choice. You willed and wished and worked it into being.
And yes, some of that is messy and horrible. Some of it had unintended consequences and feels bad. But most of it, especially when you count the neutral stuff that works like a charm but passes by unnoticed?
Most of it is a loosely choreographed masterpiece that’s kinda fucking show stopping.
Here’s the tip of that superpower truth that we often forget:
- You get to decide how much crazy you want in your life.
- You can stop apologizing for yourself at any time.
- You’re allowed to throw habits & expectations that don’t help you straight out the window.
And that’s just the very beginning!
You have a superpower, and you get to choose if you’re going to use it or fade into forgetfulness.
I hope you choose to use it.
i’m attempting to kick my snooze button habit. eep!
Sometime in my mid-20s I really started to put a high price on the quality of my friendships rather than the quantity and over the years I’ve realized that I’d so much rather spend a night home on my couch then go hang out with someone I don’t actually like or trust. That means that in my mid-30s I know have nothing but truly amazing friends in my life!
I love this post! Especially this line, ‘And yet, nearly everything that you’re doing today is your choice. You willed and wished and worked it into being.’ I don’t know about you, but we often think we are victims of certain circumstances. Yes, there are exceptionally tough one at times. While playing martyr can be addictive to some ( at least, it was to me), that too is a choice. I think when we realize the simple truth of the ‘power of choice’, we finally grow up.
One bad habit I’d like to break, staying up way too late and messing up my sleep cycle. Being a night owl is not so cool when you are an adult. :(
I’d like to be more motivated in the morning. As you know, theatre can be a very nocturnal business. I get up in the mornings alright, but often languish on the couch far too long.
As usual, this post is so timely Kyla! I’ve been thinking that I need to hit the shower in the morning before I hit the couch.
Lisa.
Inspiring! I like the idea of not letting crazy into your life. It’s sneaky, though, and it can suddenly get in the door before you know what has happened. It’s good to be reminded that we always have a choice, and to take that power back. Thanks for the wise words!
So interesting to this about this! We do have so much more ability of choice as adults–and that is something to be valued!
I’d kick my anxiety and pick up some freakin’ will power. Fear (along with various chronic illnesses) have stopped me in my tracks lately, and I’m starting to feel the fire build again. Just needs a little more pushin’.
xo Ashley
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A very bad habit is not going through my mail, and waiting to make appts. I am horrible.
Ooh, I know that feeling. I hate having those habits that bother me, but that I can’t seem to help myself with! I’m one of those people who is 5 minutes late for everything, and it drives me crazy. This year it’s one of my big focuses – to start being 5 minutes early, always. It sounds little, but it’s like climbing Everest for me!
But neither you or I are even a little bit horrible for being flawed & working through the things that are challenging to us. Scout’s honour :)
your blog is a constant source of inspiration :) thanks for this great post.
Thanks for reading, heather!
This is so well said:) I made the decision years ago to not let crazy into my life and only go after the things that empower and uplift me. I also want to be the kind of person who empowers and uplifts others. We always have a choice so we should strive to make good ones.
That sounds like a powerful choice, Tabi. Even subtle shifts can make your life so much better! I used to listen to the news all day long, and it was a constant influx of everything bad that was happening in the world. I chose to start checking in every few days and I feel so much better – and I’m no less in touch with the world. I hope your “no crazy” rule brings great things into your life in the coming year :)
“And yet, nearly everything that you’re doing today is your choice. You willed and wished and worked it into being.”
DUDE.
I’ve decided to stop apologizing. I feel what I feel and I am who I am and sorry I’m not sorry!
And you shouldn’t be! It’s so funny how we develop these verbal ticks that don’t necessarily jive with who we are. I realized over the holidays that I phrase things so I’m always asking a question, instead of just stating things or what I’m going to do. I’d looove magic wand access on that, but in the mean time I’m working on it day by day ;)
This. I have been all about this lately! I made some big changes when I decided to stop drinking, including leaving my boozy brewery job. Now I’m working on getting my butt back to school, which is something I’ve wanted to do for quite some time but never quite had the guts to commit to.
There’s something really empowering about being able to dump the things that aren’t working in your life and start reaching for the things that do.
I didn’t know you left, Vanessa – congratulations! Going back to school can feel scary – but it’s worth those butterflies to chase something you love. What are you going back to school for, if you’ve decided?
I’ve had my eye on the Public Relations Diploma program at U of W for the past year or so. Hoping to dive into it in a few months, if I can swing it!