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For the past two weeks, I’ve been battling with my computer. Usually we’re besties! Sometimes I even have to put my foot down to make sure we get time apart, because otherwise we’d spend too much time gazing into each others eyes and stop really valuing our time together, you know?
What changed? My beloved laptop has eaten it’s logic board twice, spent 9 of 14 days in the back room at Apple awaiting repairs, and I’ve been scurrying to make sure that absolutely everything I work on is backed up or living in “the cloud” so I can keep everything in my world moving forward. It’s needed over $1000 in parts and labour (thank goodness it was covered by Applecare!) and required hours of troubleshooting and trips to the laptop infirmary.
Usually I keep a tight schedule with my web design clients. Being on time or ahead of schedule is something I see in terms of my professionalism and integrity. It’s a natural feeling for anyone who values what they do and has become a powerful part of how I think about myself and my work. As my computer died it’s multiple fiery deaths the inevitable and dreaded happened: I fell behind schedule.
(If you weren’t previously picturing me by a campfire, lit by a flashlight, please start now. We’re in work/life balance horror story mode!)
No matter what I did, I was losing time to something completely out of my control. The more delayed I got, the more panic set in. The more I panicked, the less I was able to work when I finally did have time!
I “productivity shamed” myself into being so stressed out that I couldn’t get anything done.
After a week of trying to work fast, as hard as I could for as long as I could, I was floundering. Not only that, but I didn’t see the great results I expected. I realized that the answer was simple, though it felt counter intuitive to my busybody brain.
I needed to breathe deeply and slow down. I needed to give myself permission to get the rest I need, to take breaks during my day, to make delicious food, and to stop with the unattainable To Do lists. I needed to start focusing on what I was doing at any given moment.
Not only did my overwhelm melt away, but miraculously I’ve worked less and made up time by giving what’s in front of me at any given time my full attention.
Now that life is returning to normal and my computer is finally back I’m downright giddy about my attitude adjustment. I’m not throwing my schedule out the window, but clearly got the message that measuring my self worth by my productivity was exhausting and ineffective. For me whats more than enough reason to work on kicking the habit!
Five Reasons To Stop Defining Your
Self Worth By Your Productivity
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1. When you rush, you skip being in the moment.
This is how weeks, months and years of your life can evaporate out from under you. The trick is that if you focus on what’s happening right now and hold your attention there for a while, time will seem to expand out and seem to last longer than before. Try focusing on your sensations for a while (think about what you’re feeling, hearing and seeing in the moment and try to hold your attention there for 5 – 10 mins). With some practice, your body and mind will start to calm down, and that cool, calm and collected version you can make better decisions. Try it out, it’s like discovering a secret superpower!
2. You risk buying your own bullshit story of being busy & at the mercy of whatever comes your way.
If you tell yourself that your life is crazy and you don’t have time for XYZ, you’re effectively handing over control of your life to unseen, uncaring forces outside yourself. Once you convince yourself that you have no time and can only react, it’s not a huge leap to start feeling helpless. And you can’t kick ass at anything when you’ve been conquered! Don’t forget that you always have the ability to set boundaries and make time for your priorities. Armed with that, you really can accomplish whatever you want.
3. How you feel during your work day defines a huge part of your life.
We work for most of our lives, and if you get sucked into productivity shaming yourself you’ll be at risk for burn out, stress, and everything that comes with that from illness to relationship issues. More than that, you’ll spend most of your time at work – which is most of your life, by the way – desperately trying to prove your worth on a daily basis, instead of owning it and just doing great work! If you can step out of that cycle, you’ll save yourself a lot of heartache and exhaustion… and you might find that you like your job a lot more than you thought.
4. Speed doesn’t account for the impact you make or meaning you create.
Maya Angelou wrote that “people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”. When you start using productivity as your main metric you might get a lot done (though how well it’s done may be up for debate), but you’re leaving something critical out of the equation. There’s meaning behind everything you do, and that counts. Your actions can have a positive or negative impact on the people around you, and that matters. And the intention you bring to each moment matters too. And not in a small way: over time they add up to become your actions, and your actions add up to become your character. When you skip acknowledging these pieces of your life they don’t stop being important- but they will start suffer.
5. Your value is so much bigger than your typing speed, schedule or To Do list.
You are unique, mysterious and wonderful from the moment you wake up to the moment you go to sleep, and beyond. You bring a combination of skill, experience and savvy to the table that literally no one else has to offer! Why take that for granted? Each of us has a huge potential to make waves in the world and in the lives we brush up against- but you can’t participate in that if you’re not paying attention or are too wrapped up in your expectations.
If you’re worth more than your To Do list,
your definition of success should be bigger than productivity!
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Have you pinned how you value yourself to one area of your life? How did you get out of that spiral?
I mean, come on. We haven’t even touched relationships… ;)
Hi. I just discovered your blog! And I’m discovering that so much of what you are writing about on here resonates with me completely. I really struggle with these myths of productivity and over extending yourself as being virtues. I’m a high school English teacher and blogger. I struggle with trying to find some semblance of balance but I think really what i need to do is re-examine some of my priorities and take steps toward letting some balls just drop because I’m simply juggling too much. I want to be an amazing teacher and an amazing blogger and both are very time consuming tasks, but I can only be good at both of them if I distill what’s absolutely necessary. I can afford to cut back and actually enjoy some of the work that I do. Don’t worry, I’m not saying that I’ve magically been transformed (that would probably be a bit preposterous) but I definitely feel the lightbulb turning on and I’m hoping I can turn some of that into concrete change in the future. School is starting soon for me and I’m hoping to work on some major redesign and rebranding of my blog. I might be contacting you in the very near future so that we might work together on some of that work!
Thanks so much for being in touch, Jennifer. I love that this resonates with you and what you’re experiencing in your work and life. It’s a challenge to stay balanced, but I’ve found that exploring how I think about my work, life and balance is fascinating and completely rewarding. I’d love to be in touch about collaborating! Have a great rest of your summer :)
My intention as I begin each day is this:
“Let go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self worth.”
This blog post made my day! Thanks!
Lee
#3 is nearly impossible for me – when I am in deadline mode I cannot turn off – Logically I know that I will have better productivity (and that it is healthier). Luckily I do have the ability to rejuvenate between projects, but as a woman without children every single day I feel like I have to prove myself, my worth, and my identity through work – which is hard because there is so much more that I do that I enjoy – eh, the usual struggle to balance work that pays the bills, versus doing what we love that nourishes my soul. I am luckily in so many ways that I know this too shall work out.
Thank you for an amazing – thought inspiring post.
Such a good check-in and reminder. I hadn’t even realized it, but I used to operate this way. After getting burned out, I changed some of my habits and now feel much healthier. But reading this was like a time machine, and a good reminder! Thanks for these wise words!
such important words to read.. i needed this! thank you!
xx
Such a good post! I get into the same habits of work, stress, hurry, hurry, hurry, produce, produce, produce and repeat! It’s hard to get out of that cycle when it feels like more really is better.
I’ve been really struggling with this recently, and have had this window open for a couple of days while I’ve been thinking.
And then yesterday my therapist said something really smart (as she often does) – water is water if it’s in Lake Michigan or in a cup on your desk. There’s a lot of it in the lake and only a little in your glass, but it’s all still water and it all feels and tastes the same when you put it in your mouth.
What an AWESOME post – you made so many good points! What a great thing to read first thing in the morning! (And glad your computer is back and the shenanigans are over…for now!)
Thanks for this. Definitely something I am working on these days. I had the worst week ever last week and it all boiled down to how I view myself in terms of my productivity. Long to do list…bad Akirah. Short to do list…good Akirah. (Let’s keep in mind, my to do list is always long.) I need to engage in more self-care and more grace. So. I’m working on it.
wonderful post! I really love ” You risk buying your own bullshit story of being busy & at the mercy of whatever comes your way.” I all too often find myself doing this, especially with things my body really needs, like stretching and exercise and am trying to prioritize it now. thanks for sharing your struggles and tips!
I so needed this right now! I’m trying to be productive in a lot of areas of my life, and sometimes it gets overwhelming, especially when I get a ton of freelance assignments. When I’m really busy with the day job, some other goals may have to wait, unless I want to drive myself crazy AND feel like a loser at the same time.
Thanks for the post, Kyla. As usual you read my mind and made better sense of it. <3
Awesome post. You’re so right, I’m quick to consider my self-worth as somehow measured by my productivity. I had a similar computer experience a while ago and it was nice to see that the world didn’t end even if I didn’t work for a week (!).
I think as women we like to be very productive with our time coz well, time is money, right? :) We like to write lists and lists of things we need to do & we sometimes forget to live in the present and enjoy what’s in front of us & just be. I know I’m guilty of that. When something on my list doesn’t get crossed off, I feel so incomplete. Like my day isn’t complete until everything on my list gets crossed off. Sometimes I’m tempted to sacrifice sleep but that hasn’t happened (yet). I’ve learned to let it go. I’ve learned to be happy to be able to get whatever I can get done. It’s not an easy task. It’s something I’m working on a daily basis. I know in time it’ll get easier.
This is such a good reminder! I think I’m going to start writing to-do lists with one item on them. It’s too easy to get overwhelmed by the whole picture and forget to breathe and focus on the task at hand.
I “productivity shamed” myself into being so stressed out that I couldn’t get anything done. <– YES!
You risk buying your own bullshit story of being busy & at the mercy of whatever comes your way.<– YES!
When you rush, you skip being in the moment.<– YES!
So timely and perfect for my teacher/yoga teacher/mama/new entrepreneur self. It's so easy to get caught up in it all and not really get anything done except stressing yourself out.
I have such a hard time with this! I don’t feel successful (or able to relax) unless I clear off my to-do list! =\
It’s such a challenge! I used to really fixate on my inbox as the one thing I couldn’t feel good about leaving un-finished. My thought is that really, there is no real “beginning” and “end” to our To Do lists at all because we’re making them up every day. When I started thinking that way, I decided to shift my focus to making strong boundaries instead of lists. I started with defining the amount of time I wanted to spend each week doing design work vs. admin (just as an example) and what time I wanted to end work at each day. When I married myself to those, I started to feel great at the end of each day, knowing that I’d put the time in toward having a week that “looked” how I wanted it to and that I’d made great progress on my to do list too. I hope that helps, Erin!
Of course, if having a To Do list is really helpful and rewarding for you, then no need to change it! But you :/ makes me think you might be ready to experiment and see how this feels xo
I love love love checking things off my to-do list, but I think I’m not flexible enough, because when new things pop up I tend to freak out a little! haha
I like your idea of making my week look how I want, instead of fixating on specific tasks to be done each day. I think I’ll play around with my scheduling a bit. Thanks! =D
PS. YES, that inbox thing kills me. Inbox zero is like my goal in life, which is sad because it never lasts longer than 10 minutes! haha