October 13th, 2009
All straight lines circle sometime
This weekend I:
- met my mom’s boyfriend’s family
- enjoyed myself, because blogging about things before they happen gives you superpowers that render you impervious to awkward
- ate cranberry sauce & stuffing
- wished I had a tofurkey, and planned to make one for Christmas
- watched the first snowfall of the year drift down onto the prairies
- started a 15 day cleanse
- did yoga
- had a bit of a melt down
- cried a silly amount
- let Mister help to patch me back together
- made lists of everything I have burning in my mind (surprise! It was a number of handwritten pages, no wonder I’ve been going crazy)
- wrote out solutions to everything I could solve
- scheduled solving things into my planner
- grouped & categorized everything I couldn’t solve
- wrote out things that would make be feel better about each of those items
- crossed out things I need to let go
- got out my winter jackets & clothes
- had a hot bath and made tea
- started to feel better
This (Canadian) thanksgiving I am thankful for the people in my life who seek me out, for everyone who shared their family stories that made me feel infinitely better about life, and for working through all of it.
And for my husband who, when I was in the throes of tears & despair the other night, looked at me with great compassion and said, “Oh Kyla, I’m so sorry. Sometimes I forget that I was your age when we started dating.” and hugged me.
Thank goodness for him & thank you for you.
{image: m_m_mnemonic, H.P.}
I’m so happy to hear that the weekend went relatively well. And I think it’s crazy that it has snowed where you live already!
… It was in the upper 70s here today. :/
.-= E.P.´s last blog ..On wedding planning =-.
Hey Kyla, as a lady prone to meltdowns herself, it’s nice to have someone help give a little perspective, and patch things together. My boyfriend is 12 years older than I am, and sometimes I feel like I’m the only one who is going through the craziness. Sometimes it makes me feel like an alien. I feel silly that I feel the way I do when everyone around me seems to be unperturbed by the things that get me all riled up and confused. But then he tells me again what he was like at my age, in the army, jumping out of planes, living fast and crazy and barreling through it all. It’s nice to be reminded that at any age, there are other people going through the same thing, and older people who have been through it and made it out alive.
.-= ari´s last blog ..What I did when it didn’t matter =-.
Well, there’s no Thanksgiving in France, but each day I thank for my family, for my friends, for my blog readers for the awesome roomie I have, for the people who make me smile everyday, and even for those who make me frown. I say thanks for the life I have.
.-= Andy´s last blog .."I have to ask my mother". =-.
I just did the pages and pages of handwritten lists too.
Now I have to, you know, actually DO the things on the lists. Sigh.
.-= nicoleantoinette´s last blog ..broken ribs, ski resorts, and a giveaway of one of the most unique picture frames i’ve ever seen =-.
What a lovely discovery I’ve made tonight finding your blog – so incredible. And for me personally, so relatable – I do PR/Marketing, am 25, verge of marriage, just bought a house 6 months ago, love cooking, have my own side photography business, and love DIY home projects and snooping around thrift stores. Um hi, are we the same person????? :-)
.-= Tasha´s last blog ..Baby Carrots =-.
We’re all allowed to break down a little at times, honest. And so glad you have a wonderful man there for you when it happens.
That first photo, by the way, is beyond beautiful. I just might set it as my computer background.
.-= MinD´s last blog ..…I’m a Toys ‘R Us kid. =-.
i hope that things are looking up for you lady.
and happy thanksgiving:)
Oh, honey, I hope you’re doing better. Sometimes you need the release of a good cry, and I hope it worked.
Getting things down on paper has been a godsend for me too. Very cathartic. And I love my lists.
I also started a cleanse. I just started today, and it’s 25 days long. Be sure to let us know how yours is going.
.-= Nenette´s last blog ..so thankful… =-.
First of all I want to say that I absolutely love that picture of the snow. It almost makes me miss snow (the nice beautiful snow that isn’t brutally painful when my ears are frozen).
That’s a lot you did in a weekend! I hope you feel better soon and I’m glad you have an amazing supportive husband there for you. :) xo!
.-= steph anne´s last blog ..Making a Decor Statement! =-.
sometimes, you just gotta cry it out, baby. i’ve been there. we’ll probably both be there again. the nice thing about being girls is that we can just chalk it up to women’s prerogative ;)
.-= raeleigh/big sky girl´s last blog ..jacked up to Jesus =-.
Having a good hug from a good husband can totally turn a meltdown around. But we all have meltdowns. It’s just a part of the process.
Love the snow pic. Normally, I dread snow, but I’m looking forward to it this year.
.-= Allie´s last blog ..My Book Cover & More Great News! =-.
I hope you had a happy thanksgiving! <3
I often find myself writing FIGURE OUT LIFE in my planner.
.-= michelle woo´s last blog ..Wedding burnout =-.
Your weekend sounds so productive! Jealous. Also: supportive husbands are the best- especially when dealing with dysfunctional family stuff :( Believe me, I understand. :(
.-= Erin´s last blog ..thirty sixxx =-.
I’m sad to hear you haven’t been feeling your best, but we all have those moments every now and again. I’m glad mister was there to help you through it; sometimes having that kind of support can make it all better.
.-= Steph´s last blog ..A Simple Keyword Search =-.
Time with family can be harrowing sometimes. Sometimes it’s necessary to cry. Isn’t it ironic that through all those tears, we still find ways to be thankful?
We all have meltdowns every once in a while. Thank god for the people who are there to patch us back together. Hope you had a nice Thanksgiving!
.-= Andrea´s last blog ..Mining Monday: First Edition =-.
Aw, your Mister is fantastic. Poor G doesn’t know what to do when I cry, it’s so distressing to him he just wants me to stop.
Sometimes you need that cathartic bit of falling apart so that you can sort out the pieces. It’s so lovely that you were able to get it out & then start solving or letting go, some people don’t know how to do that.
I love your heart. :)
.-= Alexis´s last blog ..Guarded =-.
I’m sorry you’re having a rough time…It sounds like your weekend was perfectly relaxing for you…and you’ve got a fantastic husband! Life really IS good. :)
I’m curious about this cleanse thing. Is it a diet thing? Or something you drink? I want to do one, but some of these cleanses out there are a TAD scary!
{giant hug} i’m happy things are coming back together for you. as a matter of fact, i think i need to use your list here as a to-do list for myself these days. and while i’m at it {hug} for mister too for keeping you all together, because that kind of love just rocks.
on the other hand – boo cold. it’s snowing already there!?!!!! that’s just not right. i had to wear a hoodie AND a jacket today and that was upsetting…i can’t even think about my wool coat yet.
.-= Jenny Kellerhals´s last blog ..2am Hairstyle Quest! =-.
I’m thankful of having people like you in my life.
.-= Awmb´s last blog ..It’s a mysterious surprise! =-.
Eeek! Snow! I’m so glad I’m in SW Ontario!
It must be lovely to have a mister like yours to make everything better. :)
.-= Erin´s last blog ..Thankful =-.
aww, well happy canadian thanksgiving! i hope it went well :) i should try that writing everything down thing…it’s so much different on paper
.-= Krystal´s last blog ..UI Breakers =-.
Mister is so sweet. I’m glad he’s so supportive and there for you. I love that picture of you too. Oh and we need to have Skype chats as well!
.-= Jessica´s last blog ..Recent fall-induced old lady habits =-.
I heard that the west got snow and I was shocked! That’s a crazy reality… wasn’t it last week we were all just digging our jackets out of the closet!?! Geez. Glad you had a great weekend! :)
.-= Walking on Sunshine´s last blog ..What’s been going on in my pretty blonde head =-.
ooh how very sweet. i am sorry that you’ve been having a rough time. and i am happy that you’ve got such a wonderful guy to help you through all of life’s ups and downs. have a lovely week…
.-= Lisa´s last blog ..on having the guts to go through the gate. =-.
i got pretty close to a meltdown but luckily i had lots of people to keep me in check. thank goodness for your mister to help you out.
.-= katelin´s last blog ..Wrapping up one fabulous wedding season. =-.
Kyla, I’m so sorry that you were all twisted up this weekend but I’m happy to hear that you are feeling better. I can relate to feeling anxious and blue around the holidays. My birthday coincides with Thanksgiving and I always end up having a bit of a cry on my birthday due to Thanksgiving drama. This year I skipped it. I ran away for my birthday and it was fabulous. I still have to deal with the Thanksgiving / family birthday drama next weekend but somehow it seems more manageable now that I’ve had my perfect birthday.
.-= hillary´s last blog ..Insisting That The World Keep Turning Our Way And Our Way Is On The Road Again =-.
Oh Kyla I’m sorry. I hope your lists get shorter very soon. It’s always nice when you have someone there to give you a hug when one is REALLY needed. ::hugs to Mr. & to you::
Oh Kyla! I love the lists and the way you deal with being overwhelmed with far too many things!
.-= Habbala´s last blog ..Ode to the Perfect Weekend (Part 2) =-.
I’m glad things are looking up, slightly. It’s always hard to hit the bottom, but I’m so glad you have Mister!
.-= Megan´s last blog ..Big Plans =-.
Happy thanksgiving, Kyla :) hot bath and tea sounds really comforting.
And thank you for YOU!
I can’t imagine what you have to go through every year over the holidays to be easy at all. I’m glad Mister is there to help ease things along.
*big hugs!*
.-= Marie´s last blog ..Awake? =-.
Cleanses are great, I should really do one again. Snow… *cringe* I’m not quite ready for that yet.
.-= Angie´s last blog ..13 Days Of Halloween, Swaps, Exchanges & Blog Action Day @_@ =-.
I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been down. We all go through rough patches–it’s just a part of life, unfortunately.
With warm baths, hot teas, relaxing yoga, delicious food, and a great husband and friends though, you’ll come out of this even stronger. I’m sure of it.
.-= Maddy´s last blog ..“today, remember =-.
Honey I love you – when can I see you?
I’ll be happy to cry with you about the snow and Thanksgiving food.
Or just say to hell with it and go walk through the flakes and leaves with you :)
xo
.-= Princess of the Universe´s last blog ..Burrow. =-.
Making lists really calms me down.
I’m sorry you had a bad weekend, but I’m glad Mister was there to make you feel better. Hopefully things go uphill from here! XO
.-= Amber from Girl with the Red Hair´s last blog ..Eric’s Visit… =-.
awww, kyla.
i’d like to recruit you to be my ultimate bestie in the whole wide world (or canada or whatever)
i totally here you.
i really need to sit and write down everything on my mind, but usually when i have the time to do so, my brain is going through a meltdown and all it wants is sleep :(
i’m in a bit of a funk as well. and i’m intrigued by your organizing of all these “problems” to “solve”
Mister just sounds wonderful!
what cleanse did you start? i’m totally looking into doing one, but i have no clue about any of that.
things will be okay. i promise.
.-= erin´s last blog ..is there a theme of the week? =-.
You’re so amazing, you know. I love that even when things get rough and you break apart, you make solid plans to tackle that which ails you. You’re a strong person, Kyla. It’s my goal to be more like you.
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Your husband is great! Writing things down helps me too. Holding onto it causes massive meltdowns!!
Love you girl!! (But tofurkey? gross!)
.-= Chelsea´s last blog ..Ten on Tuesday =-.
Something must be in the water. Meltdowns for everyone. Must be the change in the weather!
Hugs
.-= Kelly´s last blog ..5 weeks to Go =-.
I’ve noticed that with the changing of the season, meltdowns can occur and seem to occur more often than not. I’m glad you have Mister who is obviously a strong and lovely force in your life to help you through these rough times. Sometimes making lists is the only way to get through these moments. And remember, you’ve got a friend in me, even though I feel like I’m a kajillion miles away from you. xoxox
.-= Nora´s last blog ..LOVE, Part Two =-.
Handwriting lists like that can help so. much. That’s what I do when I really need to calm myself down & figure out what has me stressed out.
I’m glad that those lists (and your fantastic husband) helped clear up some of your worries/ stresses.
.-= Melissa´s last blog ..My Morning Off: In Pictures =-.
Girlfriend. I had a meltdown this weekend, too.
Sometimes they cleanse, and I feel better, but this one wasn’t one of those.
I’m glad you were able to organize your thoughts and figure where you wanted or needed to go from there.
Good luck.
Also – you’re my favorite blog. You’re just so sweet.
You’re really hitting on something there with the cleanse and the yoga and the tears… letting yourself let go of things that have their grip on you, girlfriend.
Keep taking care of yourself (yoga and baths and tea and hugs!), and I will give you a GIANT hug when you come here this weekend!
Just leave the snow up in the prairies, please. I don’t want any more just yet.
.-= Doniree´s last blog ..Wine & Bloggers – A Perfect Pairing =-.
I was so not ready to see snow :P
Sometimes list making can be a real sanity saver.
.-= Vanessa (Last Night’s Leftovers)´s last blog ..I eat my feelings =-.
Sometimes you just need a cry. The most important thing is you got it out, put it on paper, started solving what you could and let go of what you couldnt. In my times like that I always, always go back to the serenity prayer…
Grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
.-= mandy´s last blog ..Sometimes I… =-.
Sometimes a meltdown is just what you need. And your system of writing down and dealing with all the things that are overwhelming you sounds excellent!
I hate hearing about any lovely person crying, but sometimes it’s a necessary evil, right? A way to cleanse and start fresh and renewed. I love the feeling of getting everything out of my head and onto paper. It gives me a sense of control (could also be that I am weirdly vain about my handwriting and love to admire it. teehee). There is nothing better in the wonderful than to realize that another person understands you. And to have that person be your husband? Priceless.
Here’s to brighter days!
.-= Ashley´s last blog ..The one where Ashley dares you! =-.
SNOW? Crazy!
.-= Alana´s last blog ..The boots…in action! =-.